I know that Ms. Moser, and anyone who knows her, will probably never ever see this post, but it makes me feel a little better to write it, so I am.
It is nobody’s business but your own what movie you choose to take your child to, and what time of said movie. Got it? If your child is old enough to sit through a movie, and mature enough to deal with anything in that movie, then go ahead and take that child to the movie. Spending time together, and maybe allowing your child a special treat by getting to stay up late equals good parenting.
But no… there are people like this in the world:
I have taken it upon myself to reply to her, and will repeat here:
The “mother herself is going to be questioning why she took her out that night” Why don’t we let her question herself then? It’s not anyone else’s job to do so. She committed absolutely zero crimes. She did nothing that would give any authority a reason to take her child away.
Unless you know what the mother was thinking when she took her daughter to a movie, you cannot say “going to the movie was more important than doing what was right.” That is nothing but pure victim blaming and that is what does not belong. You’re continuing to say the same thing over and over again, all under the pretense that you only blame the gunman.
If a woman chooses to spend time with her child doing something they enjoy, then that is what is right, no matter what time of day. Again, the movie is not as violent as everyone is making it out to be, and if I had a 6-year-old, and she wanted to see it, I would look over parental guides, and judge for myself what my child can handle.
Jane was then informed by a poster that she was was sexually assaulted, and was asked if it was her fault because she chose to go to a strip club? Jane replies:
And she did safeguard her – by being with her. She took her child to the movies, not to a gang party. She had absolutely no reason to think she was taking her daughter into a dangerous situation. Yes, I’m sure the mother will blame herself. I’m sure she’d blame herself if she took her daughter to the playground and a shootout happened. I’m sure she’d blame herself if she was in a car accident and her daughter died. It is up to no one but her to blame herself, even if she should not be doing so.
Luckily, there are other people out there with decency. Tanya and I have gone back and forth with Jane a few times now.
(Note: Tanya’s profile picture is redacted only because she has children in it.)
To Ashley Moser and her family: I’m not really a religious person, so I don’t feel right saying that my prayers go out to you, but I am sending strong and healthy vibes your way, that Ms. Moser pulls through and that you will all get through this.